The Boston Marathon Puts It All In Perspective

Life Can Change in a Hartbeat aka #BostonMaraton2013

Today, April 15, 2013, will be remembered as the day that we will never feel completely safe when we participate in a marathon or other big community events.  All we know as of the writing of this blog is that two bombs went off at the finish line of the Boston Marathon.  At last count, there were 3 dead and over 138+ injured.  We know that at least one child has passed away.  What a horrendous day!

I am a marathoner.  I run with my son-in-law.  When we run, our families support us.  They travel to watch us.  When I saw the sites of today’s race, I could easily imagine my family standing in the exact spot where the bombs went off.  I could feel the terror and confusion coming through the television screens.  Like all tragedies, it puts life in perspective.

The next time you want to complain about your stepchildren, envision the Boston Marathon and how your children would have happily been waiting for you at the finish line.  What if it was your family?  My family? How would you feel if you lost your stepchildren?  Feel that devastation.  Then, feel the gratitude that comes with healthy and safe children.  It makes you want to take a deep breath.

Let me take it to the next level.  Suppose it was the kid’s Mom who had been at the marathon?  Suppose she was horribly injured.  How would you feel?  Devastated?  Devastated for your children and devastated for your entire family.  You would remember at that moment that we are inextricably connected to each other:  both Mom and Stepmom.  All the negative thoughts would disappear and the ultimate realization would happen.  You would realize that a strong Mom is critical to the success of our step families.  If Mom is well and strong, the entire family becomes well and strong.  She is important and we are connected.  Forever.

So, when you are having that moment of frustration and bitterness, envision the Boston Marathon and how life is so precious and fleeting.  Wish the best for your family members, including Mom.  Wish the best for your family everyday.  Make it a daily practice.  You will see your life change for the better when you send your love out to the world everyday.  Let us triumphantly cross the finish line together, as a family who appreciates one another and knows that we are all champions in our own right.

Amen