The Evil Stepmother Speaks
Stepmothers Often Do All the Work Once, I did a podcast called “I May Not be First on the List, But Can I Get on the List?” In this podcast, I was highlighting a common feeling among stepmothers. It feels as if we are just not important. It is like we are invisible. In fact, the only time that we become really visible is when work has to be done: picking kids up, packing lunches,
Would You Compete at The Olympics if You Never Trained? Would you enter an Olympic event without training? Envision yourself diving into the pool next to Michael Phelps. Stand next to Simone Biles and, together, perform a floor exercise. Meet Katie Ledecky at the pool and race her in the 400 metre free style. Close your eyes and see yourself in any of these scenarios. Did you win?
“Tragedy plus time equals comedy.” Lily Tomlin If you have ever wondered: Stepmother Time is Ours to Control. It's Relative! How much more time do I devote to my role as a stepmother? or Will things get better over time? If so, exactly how much time? or Will time heal? How much time do you spend step-mothering? Literally, count the hours. Be sure to count the time spent talking and
Stepfamiles and Life Are All About the Playground It's the end of the year. There have been holidays, custody changes, vacations and aggravations. There have also been feelings of extreme joy. Some of us have received notes of love and appreciation from our stepchildren and/or our partners. Some of us feel peace in the knowing that we are making a home base for our children. For some, we still
Has the Divorce caused a Raw, Exposed Nerve?All Will Heal Did you ever wonder why the ex-wife just can't get over it? Maybe, you are a stepmother who has been a part of the family for years, yet you still feel as though the ex-wife hates you. You just don't understand it. As you know, we study the art and science of stepfamily management here at The Evil Stepmother Speaks. This blog
Is "No" Where We Draw the Line? One of the most annoying things about being a stepmother is that it brings hard subjects up. Often the thing that we don’t want to do, comes up in stepparenting. You know what I mean. Issues like: Drawing the line on issues like self respect, your role in the family and in life, how you want to live and how much you want to compromise in life and whether or not
Starbucks is More Than a Cup of Coffee.What Do You Stand For? Have you ever thought about what is truly galvanizing you towards your life's legacy? I was moved to think about this question as I watched Oprah interview Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks. Starbucks provides an aggressive benefits package for its employees that work 20 hours or more per week. How great is that? (As a side
Leadership is leadership, whether in business or in your family. When I feel doubtful or unsure what to do now. This is my favorite TED talk by Simon Sinek. Hey....I'll keep posting this one over and over again. It begs the question: how do we make our stepchildren feel when they are around us? Why should our stepchildren spend time with us?