The Evil Stepmother Speaks
Stepmom Love “What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet” William Shakespeare, Romeo & Juliet, ca. 1600 I am jealous. Kamala Harris has the title of ‘Mamala’ to her step kids. Frankly, I wish I had a sweet moniker like that. It reeks of connection and affection. My step kids call me Barb. Everyone calls me ‘Barb’ from my best friends
Introducing, the Book! The Evil Stepmother Speaks A Guide for Stepfamilies Who Want to Love and Laugh I Cried and Laugh When I Wrote It. Finally, the classic fairy tale is retold from the stepmother perspective. You will laugh and cry as the "Evil" stepmother travels on her journey to find the magic potion that will blend her family. Here is the book that tells the stepmother specific
Stepmothers Often Do All the Work Once, I did a podcast called “I May Not be First on the List, But Can I Get on the List?” In this podcast, I was highlighting a common feeling among stepmothers. It feels as if we are just not important. It is like we are invisible. In fact, the only time that we become really visible is when work has to be done: picking kids up, packing lunches,
My Stepmother Wall has a long couch. I'm setting boundaries. If you have ever been told that you do too much for others, this blog is for you. Do you feel that you can’t say ‘no’ to people? Are you sorry you said ‘yes’ and then resent it later? Welcome to the club of people that know what it feels like to be used. The motto of the club is that being ‘liked’ takes
Join us for our 2017 Stepmom Retreats! Stepfamily life is tough. The only thing that is tougher than blending the family is keeping your marriage intact. Statistics vary from a 50% to 75% divorce rate in a marriage where there are children from a prior relationship. Anyone who is a member of a stepfamily will attest that they had no idea what they were getting into. Parenting and the
Lions! Tigers and Bears! Oh my, It's the Summer Season! Oh, boy! The school year is ending and for many of us it means that the children's schedules are changing. We may have the kids for half the summer or camp schedules are starting. First tip is to remember that every time there is a change, even if it is minor, it will get exaggerated in a divorced family. Why? It triggers
Resentment is like that chocolate cake that you can't stop eating. When you feel resentful, do you feel disappointed in yourself? Feel as if you are a bad or selfish person? If you feel any of these things, know that you are not alone. Resentment is that feeling you have when you are doing something that you just don’t want to do or that you feel unappreciated doing. What makes
Stepmother Lament: Why Do I Feel This Resentment? Don’t you hate feeling resentment? Resentment is that feeling of doing things that you just don’t want to do, yet feel obligated to do. When I feel resentment, I feel as if I am being childish. I feel guilty and I feel bad about me. Usually feelings of resentment center around thoughts that we have been taught are “bad”. Maybe,
Resist Terrorism Through Compassion When you are at war, you feel alone, isolated and as if no one cares about you. Think about it. Have you ever argued with someone and found yourself repeating the story over and over again in an effort to get people to be ‘on your side’? This is your effort to not feel alone in the battle. When a country is at war, the citizens of that country feel
Haven't we all said it or thought it. Here is the rant. That ex is insane! I mean it. Really insane. How can a mother treat her children that way? That ex is so mean to my partner. She is completely unreasonable. What the hell, Bitch? The question is whether or not we are being fair. Let’s think about a few factors that may play into our perceptions. 1. Our Initial