I have often said that it is difficult to know if we are happy or unhappy with our life as a stepmother because we don’t know who we are or the role we are supposed to play in our families. In the past, I have written about our roles. Are we friends? Quasi parents? Memory… Continue Reading
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The Evil Stepmother Speaks: Your Stepchildren are Champions!
Written on June 11, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Children, Community and Society, Divorce, Educator, Evil Stepmother, Leadership, Love, Parenting, Remarriage, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepfamily Advice, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help, Women
The Evil Stepmother Speaks: My Stepchildren and Their Mom Feel Entitled
Written on June 6, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Bio Mom, Bonus Mom, Children, Divorce, Entitled, Entitlement, Evil Stepmother, Fear, Love, Mother, Parenting, Remarriage, Spouse, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepfamily Advice, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help, The Ex, Women
I hear that word constantly. My stepchildren feel entitled. Their Mom feels entitled. Everyone seems to feel entitled except us. Hmmm…I wonder if that’s true? Let’s tear it apart a bit and see if we can find a solution. What do we mean by entitled? The word entitled means that you feel as if you… Continue Reading
The Evil Stepmother Speaks: Is Your Stepfamily Afraid of You?
Written on May 21, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Bio Mom, Bonus Mom, Children, Community and Society, Divorce, Evil Stepmother, Fear, Home Wrecker, Mother, Remarriage, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepfamily Advice, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help, The Ex, Women
Has your stepfamily ever told you that they are afraid of you? Don’t be surprised if they are terrified. Yes, I said ‘terrified’. No one will tell you that they are scared. In fact, they may act as if they tower over you and give you the impression that you are powerless. Have you seen… Continue Reading
The Evil StepParent Speaks: I MIGHT BE A PAIN IN THE A–!
Written on May 13, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Bio Mom, Bonus Mom, Children, Community and Society, Divorce, Evil Stepmother, Mother, Parenting, Remarriage, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepfamily Advice, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help, The Ex
I just realized that I have been a pain in the ass. It hit me like a lightning bolt. Let me explain my thinking. When I became a stepmother, I jumped in with two feet. I was so excited to be related to my stepchildren. I loved being part of their lives. I also felt… Continue Reading
The 3 Lies We Tell Ourselves About Mother’s Day
Written on May 7, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Bio Mom, Bonus Mom, Community and Society, Divorce, Evil Stepmother, Holidays, Mothers Day, Parenting, Remarriage, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepfamily Advice, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help, The Ex, Women
It is that dreaded time of year for stepmothers everywhere, Mother’s Day. The emotional turmoil and quiet confusion starts several weeks before the holiday and culminates in a litany of rationalizations right up until that dire Sunday. It is reasonable that children spend Mother’s Day with their mother. For divorced families, it means that the… Continue Reading
The Stepmother is the Family Anchor-The Evil Stepmother Speaks, Again
Written on May 1, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Children, Divorce, Evil Stepmother, Leadership, Mother, Parenting, Power, Remarriage, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help, Women
When you live in a remarried home, there are tons of moving parts. Kids are going back and forth. We are working. Relationships go up and down. Emotions swirl around our heads 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Much like the waves of the ocean can be turbulent, our families bravely voyage to… Continue Reading
The Ex-Wife and the Evil Stepmother Speak
Written on April 24, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Bio Mom, Bonus Mom, Children, Community and Society, Divorce, Evil Stepmother, Fear, Finances, Gossip, Maslows Hierarchy, Mother, Parenting, Power, Remarriage, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepfamily Advice, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help, The Ex, Women
I always wanted to tape a frank conversation between a stepmother and a Mother. I always had this theory that if we could hear each other, we may think differently about the way we think, act and speak. I am anxious to hear your feedback on the conversation. This is a personal conversation between me… Continue Reading
The Boston Marathon Puts It All In Perspective
Written on April 15, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Adult Children, Boston Marathon, Community and Society, Divorce, Gratefulness, Grief, Love, Other Family Events, Parenting, Remarriage, Spouse, Spouse's Family, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepfamily Advice, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help, The Ex, Women
Today, April 15, 2013, will be remembered as the day that we will never feel completely safe when we participate in a marathon or other big community events. All we know as of the writing of this blog is that two bombs went off at the finish line of the Boston Marathon. At last count,… Continue Reading
The Evil Stepmother Speaks: Are We Really Sharing Our Stepchildren?
Written on April 7, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Children, Community and Society, Divorce, Evil Stepmother, Love, Money, Parenting, Remarriage, Sharing, Sharing Economy, Spouse, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepfamily Advice, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help, The Ex, Unconditional Love, Women
Ever since the last economic downturn, people have become entrepreneurial about how they live and work. The biggest change has been the new Sharing Economy. The sharing economy is one where we share each other’s resources with each other either freely or cheaply. As a matter of fact, I am a member of a barter… Continue Reading
Stepmothers Wonder “Will I Be Abandoned?”
Written on March 6, 2013 by Barb Goldberg in Abandonment, Being Alone, Children, Community and Society, Divorce, Evil Stepmother, Feaer, Fear, Loneliness, Love, Other Family Events, Parenting, Remarriage, Resilience, Stepchildren, Stepfamily, Stepfamily Advice, Stepmom, Stepmom Advice, Stepmom Help, Stepmother, Stepmother Advice, Stepmother Help
A common lament among all of us stepmothers is “When will this all end?” or “When will this get better?” I ask myself that same question and I have reached a new conclusion. I think it is us. Stepmothers are a fragile tribe. We are hard working and focused, but our hearts are easily broken.… Continue Reading