• Every Stepmother Has That Moment When They Want to Say, "Kiss My Brisket" Do you ever find yourself asking your partner: “What did she/he say?” “No, really, tell me what happened.” “I don’t care what she does.” Next moment. “Tell me what she did.” Do you feel as if you can’t seem to stop yourself? Does it feel as if you are addicted? So, why are we talking and how can we

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    What If There Was a Beautiful Stepfamily and You Couldn't See It? They say that the definition of stupidity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.  If we were to be honest with ourselves, do we do the same things?  Do we avoid the hard work associated with change?  Do we want to avoid any vulnerability to our stepfamily members? Do we just want things to be

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    Should Stepmothers Listen In On Conversations Between the Bio-Parents? Do you listen in on the conversations between your spouse and their ex?  It's a normal thing to do, right?  Bio parents need to talk fairly often.  Child management takes coordination and discussion.  So, the phone rings and you happen to be sitting in the room.  Your partner answers.  It is his/her ex.  Next thing

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    Leave a Comment and You May Win a CafeSmom Gift Set! Help me welcome the fantastic Heather Hetchler of Cafe Smom blog/coaching/stepmom store site.  Heather is one of our stepmom heroes and today we're going to talk about self care.  (Yes, I know.  You don't have the time!)  Listen to Heather talk about her recent journey towards self care and my failures in that area. Heather Hecthler is

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    I Am a Better Person Because of My StepChildren Stepchildren come into our life for a reason.  This touching rendition of I Have Been Changed from the play, #Wicked, speaks volumes for all of us stepmoms and our stepchildren.  It truly speaks to how lucky we are to have our stepchildren.  It is a tribute to forgiveness, love and family. Although the video is a little blurry, it is

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    Stepmom Love As many of you know, I am a #MarthaBeck life coach.  Dr. Beck calls all of her coaches, the tribe.  Somehow, all of us know that we are part of a tribe and that we belong there.  We belong together because we are of like mind.  We don't go around talking about what connects us.  We just know. I started thinking about our Stepmom Tribe.  We have one, you know.  I can feel

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    Are We Entering a Kinder World? A great parental moment happened yesterday.  Did you see the op ed piece in the New York Times?  It was a piece written by Greg Smith called Why I Left Goldman Sachs.  After working at Goldman Sachs for 12 years, Mr. Smith explains why he has decided to leave the firm.  He said, "To put the problem in the simplest terms, the interests of the client continue

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    Stepmoms! Has Our Time Come? Enough is enough.  By now, you have heard the story about #SusanFluke, a third year Georgetown University law student who testified before Congress.  Ms. Fluke was in favor of health plans paying for contraception medication, especially because they are used to treat medical conditions, not just for contraception.  #RushLimbaugh responded with a 3-day rant

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    Derek Frederickson Teaches Us about Client Attraction and How Our Families Can Benefit About a year ago, I heard about a company called Client Attraction.  At the time, I was working in corporate America and business was trying.  The world was talking about economic disaster and the country was afraid.  Then, I heard about Derek and Fabienne Frederickson's Client Attraction practice.  Here

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