The Evil Stepmother Speaks
Stepfamiles and Life Are All About the Playground It's the end of the year. There have been holidays, custody changes, vacations and aggravations. There have also been feelings of extreme joy. Some of us have received notes of love and appreciation from our stepchildren and/or our partners. Some of us feel peace in the knowing that we are making a home base for our children. For some, we still
Has the Divorce caused a Raw, Exposed Nerve?All Will Heal Did you ever wonder why the ex-wife just can't get over it? Maybe, you are a stepmother who has been a part of the family for years, yet you still feel as though the ex-wife hates you. You just don't understand it. As you know, we study the art and science of stepfamily management here at The Evil Stepmother Speaks. This blog
This is a guest post by Author and Stepmother, Holly Robinson Holly Robinson Always Includes Stepfamilies in Her Novels. There was a moment last spring when I poured a cup of tea, carried it into the dining room to read the newspaper, then froze mid-sip when I noticed the date above the headlines. At that very moment, my husband’s ex-wife was enjoying the first day of her vacation in
Who is that Stepmother Woman? It is easy to think of the stepmother as that woman your ex partner married. If the stepmother is just that woman who is in the house, it lessens the pain of the divorce and the consequences that failed relationship has brought. After all, the worst part of a divorce is the consequences wrought upon the children. As the children begin their journey between
Stepmothers Have a Tremendous Effect on Their Stepchildren via The Pygmalion Effect Is that true? Is there nothing that you can do to affect your stepchildren’s life? If you feel powerless, I want to remind you of The Pygmalion Effect. The Pygmalion Effect is a scientifically proven phenomenon whereby the greater the expectation placed upon people the better they perform. Another way to look
Stepmothers: Can We Create a Soft Place to Land for Our Children? Ourselves? Our Partners?(Source: coloribus.com) Dr. Laura Schlesinger always advises her clients that they should never marry a person with children. She advises that divorced parents should focus should on the children and there is not room for another person. She also argues that there will always be resentments on all
There are a thousand situations, but I thought it may be nice to have a cheat sheet for just a couple of the more common situations. It's a start! Let's face it. There are rules for sports. Rules at work. Rules at school What about rules for the stepfamily. As I always say, "Stepfamilies are not for the faint of heart". It would sure be easier if we could make a list of rules. Here
Stepfamilies Need Their Own Supreme Court Decision! The Supreme Court of the United States (#SCOTUS) approved same-sex marriage today (the writing of this blog). Per CNN online, "Voting 5-4 in each of two decisions, justices threw out part of a law that denied hundreds of federal benefits to same-sex couples and cleared the way for gays and lesbians to once again marry in California."
Your StepChildren Are Champions. See Rita Pierson's TedTalk (attached) I have often said that it is difficult to know if we are happy or unhappy with our life as a stepmother because we don't know who we are or the role we are supposed to play in our families. In the past, I have written about our roles. Are we friends? Quasi parents? Memory makers? Event planners? Then, I saw this
Do Our Stepchildren Feel Entitled? I hear that word constantly. My stepchildren feel entitled. Their Mom feels entitled. Everyone seems to feel entitled except us. Hmmm…I wonder if that’s true? Let’s tear it apart a bit and see if we can find a solution. What do we mean by entitled? The word entitled means that you feel as if you deserve things that you have not