• A Case of You by Joni Mitchell “I met a woman She had a mouth like yours, she knew your life She knew your devils and your deeds, and she said "Go to him Stay with him if you can But be prepared to bleed" A Case Of You lyrics © Crazy Crow Music / Siquomb Music Publishing Sometimes, when I think about life as a stepmother, I can feel my heart breaking into little pieces.  This is the

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    Stepmother Lament: Why Do I Feel This Resentment? Don’t you hate feeling resentment?  Resentment is that feeling of doing things that you just don’t want to do, yet feel obligated to do.  When I feel resentment, I feel as if I am being childish. I feel guilty and I feel bad about me.  Usually feelings of resentment center around thoughts that we have been taught are “bad”.  Maybe,

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    Has the Divorce caused a Raw, Exposed Nerve?All Will Heal Did you ever wonder why the ex-wife just can't get over it?  Maybe, you are a stepmother who has been a part of the family for years, yet you still feel as though the ex-wife hates you.  You just don't understand it.  As you know, we study the art and science of stepfamily management here at The Evil Stepmother Speaks.   This blog

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    Life Can Change in a Hartbeat aka #BostonMaraton2013 Today, April 15, 2013, will be remembered as the day that we will never feel completely safe when we participate in a marathon or other big community events.  All we know as of the writing of this blog is that two bombs went off at the finish line of the Boston Marathon.  At last count, there were 3 dead and over 138+ injured.  We know

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    Are Stepmoms an Unwitting Bully to our StepChildren? Are we bullying our stepchildren into allowing us (step parents) into their space?  Sometimes, I wonder.  Many define bullying as persistent, unwanted behavior perpetrated by people who feel inadequate.  Over the years, I know that much of my behavior has been unwanted and I have certainly felt inadequate as a parent and step parent. 

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    I am a true believer that grief plays an ongoing and critical role in our stepfamilies.  Did you ever feel as if the children just won't come around?  Why are these adult children so mean to me?  Why doesn't the ex-spouse or the children like me? These are the times that call for  stepmom help. I wonder if grief is the answer to some of these questions.  There is so much loss! 

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