• Stepmoms! Has Our Time Come? Enough is enough.  By now, you have heard the story about #SusanFluke, a third year Georgetown University law student who testified before Congress.  Ms. Fluke was in favor of health plans paying for contraception medication, especially because they are used to treat medical conditions, not just for contraception.  #RushLimbaugh responded with a 3-day rant

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    Stepmoms That Are Comfortable With Themselves Are Truly Inspired Ever wonder why some stepmoms live happily ever after while others do not?  They have transformed themselves into inspired stepmothers.  Inspired stepmoms lead by being themselves.  They all think, act and communicate the same way.  They speak heart to heart.  The inspired stepmom is comfortable being herself. Your

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    Physicists Think They Will Find the "God" Particle In the end the love you take is equal to the love you make   Lennon/McCartney, "The End", Sony/ATV Music Publishing, LLC Did you hear that scientists believe that they have found the God particle? Physicists have been looking for this missing piece of the governing theory of the universe's tiniest pieces.  This finding reminds

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    Extended Family like a Great Father-in-Law can Ease the Life of the Evil Stepmother My father-in-law passed away over the Thanksgiving holiday.  He was 95 years old.  We had been pals for 20 years.  His passing was a reminder of all the extended family members that become part of our divorces, remarriages and blended existences.  They often don't get mentioned, but they are seriously

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    A Stepmom Learns from The Greatest Teacher on Earth On December 8th, I will host Koelle Simpson, the Horse Whisperer on The Stepmom Toolbox Show.  Now, why would I have a horses whisperer on a show dedicated to step families? The answer will change your life. First of all, let me tell you a little bit about Koelle.  From an early age, Koelle had the incredible gift of being able to

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    You Decide How to Have Your Own Holiday Fun! Wonder what the top step mom experts advise for the holidays?  The Stepmom Toolbox Show is a fantastic resource for step parents who could use some quick advice. Four of us host the show:  Claudette Chenevert, The Stepmom Coach, Paula Bisacre of Remarriage Works, Mary Kelly-Williams of Married with Baggage and Barb Goldberg (me) of The Evil

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    Be Thankful for our Step Families and the Holidays Stepfamilies and The Holidays The holidays are coming!  The holidays are coming!  Let the message ring out throughout the land.  For most stepfamilies, the thought of the holidays gives rise to fear in our hearts. The holidays are stressful without any additional layers of complications.  Cooking, shopping, travelling, and budgeting your

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    Have you ever said anything nasty about your spouse's ex?  Your stepchildren? How about one bio parent talking about the other? Every stepmom has that inevitable feeling that they are being talked about or criticized. Our step families can be a frustrating place to live.  With the holidays coming soon, those frustrations can skyrocket as holiday schedules are negotiated and time with the

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    My ex husband left when my son was an infant.  Initially, we did not hear from my ex’s family.  Looking back, they probably had no idea what to do.  One day, my son and I received a package in the mail.  It was a book written and drawn by my niece on the ex’s side of the family.  It was a book that introduced my son to the members of their family.  She had photos of everyone and their

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    So, here’s how it goes.  When you remarry and visit the new extended family, it is totally reasonable to see pictures of your spouse and their ex.  After all, this is a viable piece of family history. Then, time goes on.  Year #1, #2, #3, #4, #5….stop….time to visit the extended family again.  Hmmm……yes, the old pictures are still up.  So, you come up with a brilliant idea. 

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