• Lions! Tigers and Bears! Oh my, It's the Summer Season! Oh, boy!  The school year is ending and for many of us it means that the children's schedules are changing.  We may have the kids for half the summer or camp schedules are starting.  First tip is to remember that every time there is a change, even if it is minor, it will get exaggerated in a divorced family.  Why?  It triggers

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    Resist Terrorism Through Compassion When you are at war, you feel alone, isolated and as if no one cares about you. Think about it.  Have you ever argued with someone and found yourself repeating the story over and over again in an effort to get people to be ‘on your side’? This is your effort to not feel alone in the battle.  When a country is at war, the citizens of that country feel

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    Haven't we all said it or thought it.  Here is the rant. That ex is insane! I mean it. Really insane. How can a mother treat her children that way? That ex is so mean to my partner.  She is completely unreasonable.  What the hell, Bitch? The question is whether or not we are being fair.  Let’s think about a few factors that may play into our perceptions. 1.    Our Initial

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    Are You a Stepmother Who Blames Everyone Else? Do you find yourself blaming others for your life situation? See if any of these 'stepmother' statements strike a chord with you: “These kids are a nightmare because their mother and father don’t discipline them. It is their fault. Our marriage is a nightmare because the ex tortures us. It is her fault. I cook, clean, transport and pay the

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    A Divorced Family's "Twas The Night Before Chriastmas" TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS by Scott T. Taylor of UnderAppeal.com ‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the Courts, Applications were piling, with time running short; Frantic parents consumed in a flurry of faxes, With lawyers and spouses all arguing Christmas access. No stockings yet hung by the chimney with

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    Stepmothers! Ever Had Someone Tattle Tale On You?Image from Anne Taintorwww.AnneTaintor.com Ever been tattled on?  You know what I mean.  Someone tattle taled on you.  Remember tattletaling?  Let me refresh your memory.  According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, a tattletale is an informer.  Here are the synonyms listed within the dictionary definition: Synonyms: betrayer, canary

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    There is So Much Love Available to All of the Children in a Stepfamily! I got divorced when my son was an infant.  In the very beginning, I didn't hear from my ex's family.  Understandable.  Through the creative love of a family member (Read my blog, The Best Book Ever Written), I reconnected with my in-laws and a love affair ensued between them and my son.  My son proceeded to visit them

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    10 Tips to Becoming the Joyful StepmotherImage by Marylou Falstreau Joy?!  What is she talking about?  I'm just trying to survive this stepfamily thing.  Remember, it's the simple things in life that really make a difference.  How many times have you wondered, "Did I make a mistake?"  Have you harbored thoughts that you may never be happy as a stepmother?  This class gives you 10 tips on

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    It Takes Time for People to Know, LIke and Trust You. That's okay! When you think about buying a product or service, your preference is the work with someone that you know, like and trust.  It is a basic tenet of business and it takes time.  When you think about businesses that you frequent, how long did it take you to know, like and trust that person? Tell me if I am wrong, but I will

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    I can't help it.  This video just makes me laugh.  It reminds me of how awkward it is when you first join your new family:  both as a new wife and stepmom.  You just feel so awkward and exposed.  Enjoy the cheap laugh!

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